When You See Something Beautiful In Someone April 24, 2017

I read a quote recently as I was mindlessly browsing Pinterest (you know, probably looking at home decor that I’ll only ever dream of having), and it hit me pretty hard. It might seem strange, but this quote was really powerful to me.

“When you see something beautiful in someone, tell them.”
– Unknown

It’s a pretty simple concept, and at first it doesn’t seem very powerful. In fact, at first glance it seems pretty easy and natural. But after thinking about it for a minute, you might realize that it’s much more than it seems.

I think part of why it’s so powerful is because we live in a society that tends of embody the opposite sentiment. Think about it, we often harbor jealousy and a lust to be better than others. It’s common for people belittle others, and it’s definitely not as common to acknowledge the things we appreciate in others. How often I even find myself saying or thinking negative things about a person when actually I’m just jealous, is embarrassingly often. Of course people get thrown off when they see someone succeeding, but instead of feeling frustration and jealousy we should feel happy for that person and inspired to make our own lives successful in the ways that we want.

Haven’t you ever heard successful people say over and over again that success will always come with a multitude of people that will hate you for your success. Or probably more common, haters gonna hate. This is precisely what I’m talking about, and I want no part of it anymore.

It’s funny. Ever since I started to try to do this – trying to actually acknowledge the beautiful things I see in people – I’ve been getting a lot of DAMN weird looks. Seriously. People are like um, Amanda…why are you acting weird?? For example, I’ll acknowledge something someone did that I thought was really compassionate, and maybe I’ll say something like “I really admire how you did __” or, “it’s so nice to see someone doing __”. And can you guess how they respond? 99% of the time they get SO uncomfortable. Like, Amanda this is not what people do.

You don’t just compliment someone for no reason??

They’ll almost always try to laugh it off as if I just made a joke. Or maybe they’re confused that someone noticed. I don’t quite know exactly. But what I do know is that people are usually left a little stunned wondering what the hell my hidden motives are. But the truth is, I don’t have any at all. I’m just trying to acknowledge what I see that’s beautiful. And I wish people would do this more. Instead of getting selfish and competitive, I want to nourish a loving heart that takes inspiration from beautiful things. And appreciates beautiful things. And ACTUALLY tells people when they’re doing something beautiful.

If your joyfulness makes me smile, I’m going to tell you. If you think I’m nuts, tbh I don’t even care! I’d so much rather appreciate beauty and encourage people, than foster a jealous and competitive heart.

I hope this post has inspired you at least a little bit to try to tell people when you see something beautiful in them. Even if it’s uncomfortable! As I’ve mentioned, you’re probably going to get a lot of super weird looks, and hella awkward laughs. But I’m pretty sure that people do genuinely appreciate the fact that you noticed. Whenever this has happened to me, although I’m a bit startled and put off too, I also feel encouraged to do more beautiful things.

Thanks so much for reading ♥


Do you hate receiving compliments and wish I’d stop encouraging this!?  Does it bum you out that this isn’t as common as it should be? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences.

 

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